Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Couple's Corner: What Will I Get For Christmas?

The last time he gave me something for Christmas, it was a pair of shoes (Hush Puppies). This Christmas, I am not going to expect to get anything from him because I am already aware of what our money can or cannot buy. Anyway, it goes for him as well. Everytime I would attempt to buy him a new shirt as my gift for Christmas, he would warn me not to because we have to make ends meet first. Yes, he's not the type who would agree to buy gifts from credit card. Obviously, between the two of us, he's the more frugal and practical type.

Sunday, May 23, 2010

NYC Singles - Enjoy A Fulfilling Dinner Date Minus The Pressure

When I was still single, being set up on a few dates had helped me how to carry myself well in front of the opposite sex. Well, I actually learned how to be myself and to be comfortable with being myself in front of a man. Somehow, those dinner dates have helped me realize (sometimes psychoanalyze) the many different personalities that men possess. There are men who are too nice while there are also men who just play nice. With dinner dates, you can engage in a nice conversation with the opposite sex. A dinner date is what I call a "harmless date". After that, you only have to thank the person for a nice dinner date and conversation with him. Then maybe if both of you like each other, then you can look forward to another date with the person. It's like getting to know the person a step at a time.

When on a date, the subject on who pays for dinner is sometimes an issue. Traditionally, when a man asks a woman for a dinner date, it is already given that the guy pays for dinner, although there are also women who would insist on paying for dinner but that rarely happens. Women feel special when a guy plans and pays for a dinner date.

Today, there are already different and creative ways to date. Some would even join reality dating shows just to find their match. Well, for sure there are some who are not comfortable with that concept of dating.

In New York City, by the way, I learned that there's a new way of going on harmless dinner dates with the opposite sex. This is sometimes called 'Dating New York style'. Women Seeking Men can actually go on harmless and arranged dinner dates with NYC Singles. Some people may find this interesting but unusual especially for women who are used to going on traditional dinner dates. Anyway, the goal is the same - and that is to enjoy a fulfilling dinner date minus the pressure of having to go on a subsequent date if you don't look forward to it.

Dating New York singles in casual dinner parties may be an interesting way to date in the land of the big apple, however, NYC Singles (especially Women Seeking Men) should still think of it as a friendly, no pressure way of meeting new people and new faces.

Friday, March 5, 2010

is it okay for a woman to tell a guy that she likes him?

Is it okay for a woman to tell a guy that she likes him?  This was a question raised by a friend of mine and she posted it on her wall at a social networking site. I find it interesting to write down my thoughts about it and see if my thoughts make any sense to me and people.

Here's what I am thinking at the moment, and by the way, the question applies only to single, free and available people... I believe it's all about culture. If our culture tells us that it is inappropriate for a girl to make the first move or to suggest anything, then a girl is left to suppress her feelings for a guy. This was the culture that I was brought up in; although there were times before that I was left thinking if I would have felt better about myself if I allowed myself to be more open about my feelings. I guess it worked better for me that I didn't because my feelings cannot be trusted at that time yet because they're still unstable. With other countries, though, they say it is even okay to ask the guy for a date. And girls are not even offended if they are rejected.

Well, anyway, our ability to handle ourselves with men around would somehow change as we grow mature.

When we like someone, we can still show the person that we do and can somehow drop a hint that we look forward to getting to know him better.

I am not a relationship guru but here are my ideas on how we can let a person know that we like him and/or how to get a guy to get to know you better:

Thursday, April 23, 2009

there is joy in living

How do we find joy in living? We all know that money cannot really buy true happiness. Happiness, for me, is something that keeps us from wanting and longing for so much more in this life; that we are already content with what we have achieved. We may have failed in other things but we have learned to accept that we are not perfect. That we are capable of making a terrible mistake but we are able to forgive ourselves for it; that we can excel at some things but can also be weak in other things.

That sense of self-fulfillment. We are lucky if we have already reached this stage. No longer will we care about the latest gadgets that are available in the market. No longer will we care about holding a luxurious party for our birthdays or other occasions. No longer will we worry about what others think about us. No longer will we think about elevating our status just to earn everybody's respect.

You see, life is more than just money. Life is all about relationships. Most affluent people we know aren't really happy with their lives. They may be rich and have a say in the society but if they have made their wealth as a measure of their success, they will find that there is no meaning in their existence. They will always feel empty inside. They will build mansions or invest in properties but will feel paranoid that people have vested interests in their fortune and so they start to build walls. Everyday they worry about their lives. They worry about security. They live in abundance but still can't truly be happy.

In order to be truly happy, we must never be a slave to money. Let us start in building good relationships with people. Spread some love. Let us live our lives according to God’s will. Only then will we find true happiness. Only then will we find that there is joy in living amidst all difficulties.

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Bridget Jones: that's not my name! :)

Looking back, I never thought I would ever find someone I would marry. It was even hard to get myself a boyfriend for an inspiration. I guess I’ve never been that attractive to men. While most women have been blessed with good looks and good curves, I have been blessed with brains more than the physical aspect. I’m not saying I’m too ugly to be with anybody. It’s just that I had a lot more insecurities at that time than I can handle. I was young then. I hated it when people and "so-called" friends notice your flaws instead of focusing on the positive things about you. In short, I have always felt less beautiful but I have somehow managed to hide my insecurities by always being the funny and witty girl around. I was always everybody’s friend. I was always the unattached. By being so, I have excused myself from being somebody’s apple of the eye. But it was always my family who saw me as beautiful. My mom would always say I’m a late bloomer, the reason why I haven’t met my guy yet.

I then kept praying to God to liberate me out of my insecurities. That’s when I was able to accept and love myself. Then I started to care for myself even more. I decided I should love myself first before I could love someone else and being loved in return. It didn’t take long for me to feel beautiful after that.

To cut the story short, I had met and dated a few before I met the right one. The first time I saw him, I thought he was familiar. I even said to myself, “This guy would make a good husband.” How in the world did I know that? I barely knew him coz I was a newcomer in the company. At that time, I realized he was very attached with somebody. So instantly I have cut my illusions about him being God-sent for me.

Then I went on with my life being the unattached. Keeping myself busy with my job. And always praying to God. I realized that there are lots of things going on in your head when you’re twenty-something. You’ll start to think about your purpose in life. I kept praying to God for direction.

Two years after, we were already in the same situation, he became unattached. No matter how long you'd be in a relationship, if it isn't meant to be, it isn't meant to be. He courted me when he was already free and ready to be in a new relationship. We've already known each other for years and so it didn’t take long for our personalities to jive.

We got married a year after. And surprised a few colleagues. They didn’t think we would end up to be mister and missus. Or maybe not too soon. Well, surprise, surprise!

Now I’m 18 weeks pregnant. We will be celebrating our first wedding anniversary this month. It hasn’t been a long journey, but so far, we’ve surpassed all the trials that came along. We never stopped praying to God that He would bless our married life. I felt that He did! Who could ask for more?

Talking About The New Normal

What's the new normal these days? This got me thinking today, and I thought I should make a list. 1. Wearing Masks. Obviously, it'...