Showing posts with label personal legacy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label personal legacy. Show all posts

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

trying out a new way of setting goals

Vision without action is a daydream. Action without vision is a nightmare. – Japanese Proverb
I looked in the mirror today and realized I am already getting older. Honestly, I keep forgetting how old I am until my next birthday comes and people would ask my age. That's when I would instantly use calculator application on my desktop and subtract the year I was born to the current year today and I couldn't believe that the resulting difference represents my own age. Haha! I keep telling them though what I read somewhere that it is not polite to ask a woman her age. At the back of my mind, however, I would already have some panicky feeling about my age and how much I have yet to accomplish in life. Has it been less than a year ago  since I've written about my legacies in life?

I believe I'm still not far from fulfilling my dreams for my family and even the goals I have set for myself although I am afraid that without a clear timeline, I would not have enough time to fulfill them. I must admit that sometimes I would want to have a clear vision of what I want done within a certain period of time. Although I really don't know if I'll reach that certain period of time because everything works according to God's will, it still makes a difference to have short-term and long-range goals so that I won't go farther away from fulfilling them.

Interestingly enough, I have found a social networking site that can help me lay down the goals, plans, activities that hubby and I have set together to accomplish within a period of time. This is relatively new to me but the site allows me to add our goals in private mode. However, just as there are goals and activities that are just too personal to be shared, there are also goals that we'd like to share for others to see and get involved with.

Sometimes it would take another person, even a stranger or someone with similar goals as ours, to drive us into achieving them. Get inspired to do something new without going too far away with fulfilling all that you really intend to do in life. Like me, if this is something you also find interesting, you know what to do - Register now and get started. I actually just got myself registered today and found it interesting to be able to read what other people's goals are and what they are actually doing to achieve them. If you'd like to do the same, you will only have to fill up just a couple of things, the same way you would do with other social networking sites. Not sure? Answers here. I'll see you there then.

Thursday, November 12, 2009

My Legacies In Life

It's been thirty-three years of existence, and still counting, and yet at this point in time, I felt like I haven't really done much. Or have I? I think and I know there's still so much more to achieve.

I don't have to be a perfectionist to be able to realize that I can go through life better than this. So much better than this. I didn't mean the material things because they're just passing fancies. Everything and everyone will all come to pass. Pondering on these things, I just realized that I've already hit my middle age, that is, if you look at the current average life span of a human being. And yet, at this stage in my life, I felt like there are lots of things that are left undone. Frankly, I really don't know why. I guess I'm just so afraid life won't permit me to fulfill all my dreams for my family while I still can. I'd like to see my daughter grow up, go to school, have a job, and have a family of her own. Or who knows, she just might have a sibling one day, too. I kept praying to God to give me more time with my family. Quality time, that is.

Since I can no longer hold the years back, I'd like to be able to leave some legacy, if not for everyone to remember me by, then at least for my family so they will always think of me.

They say we can do these things, but not necessarily in this order, to leave some legacies in this life:

1. Plant A Tree. This is something I have not done yet. I've planted crops but not a tree. A tree is a good legacy especially if you plant the perennial type. When I leave this world and the tree has grown, and continued to bear fruits, they will always think of the one who planted the tree. Well, hopefully.

2. Have A Child. If you have children and especially if they grow to be the best of your kind, people will remember the tree (the parent) who bore the fruit (the child). I think I already have some points in this "criteria", if I can call it that. :-)

3. Write A Book. If you write a book, especially if it's a good one, people will remember the author and will get recognized for the work. Well, I'm working on it. If doing some blogging won't pass for this third requirement, then I'll be working on it.

4. Reach Out to People. I've added this as another legacy that I think not any person would want to do but I'd like to be able to do this my own way and in any way I can.

I am just so grateful I still have time to do what I have to do. In general, I've already made a legacy by being thirty-three, a wife, and a mom to a beautiful daughter (and a daughter, a sister, a niece, a friend, a relative, etc.)...

Friday, October 24, 2008

my mom's legacy

i am such a cry-baby. i cry over even the smallest of things--sad commercials, soap operas, sad movie endings, stomach cramps, etc. you can just imagine how it is going with me especially now that i am pregnant. hormones, yes, that's a good guess. or maybe i am just plainly old me!

you see, i was watching my favorite drama on tv "Iisa Pa Lamang" and i felt so bad that i could relate to the sad plight of claudine barretto's character where it got me teary-eyed. in-between commercials, i was also going through our wedding album and found my mom's letter safely kept in one of those picture holders. mommy wrote it for me and stephen the morning after our wedding. i cried again. her letter would always touch my heart even though i've re-read it several times. i realized that this was the last letter she had made for me (and hubby). it pains me still. i'm happy. i'm sad. it's always a roller coaster ride. i'm happy because i know where she is right now. in a safe place. but i'm sad, too. coz i thought she'd still be here for long. i'm looking forward to our wedding anniversary because mom was also a special part of it but it's also nearing december and that's the time we lost her last year. we never even got the chance to celebrate christmas with her. :(

going back to this letter, i would like to share this one on the internet because i'm proud of my mom. she has left me quite a legacy. this was simply written, but was definitely written from the heart.

Everdearest Joanne and Stephen,

Greetings!

You are now entering a new life of togetherness, full of hope and anticipation with all its benefits and obligations that go along with it. Trust and Pray to God alone for help that you both and your future children can triumph over trifles. There are many thorns in every roses, despite the fragrance and beauty they bring. God made it so- so you can learn to render sacrifices when there's trials. Why are there trials? Because our humility is tested - to accept our faults and follies and learn to forgive and be forgiven. Love is so wonderful... if you continue to love each other for better or for worse, in health and sickness. Always try to patch things up before sundown. Don't allow self-pity. Remember you love each other, so be strong against temptations and trials. If you get angry at anything be soft to say it so that it shall not build up to be a wall against harmony. Never allow to forget to eat when hunger urged you to eat. Even if you have misunderstanding, don't use the grace of God - your food on the table - to wait till you're cool. Patch up at once- so that your immune system will be working well with your body and soul. A sick body is a sick soul. Always look at things in positive direction. Always Love God before anything. In everything, in every thought, in every decision - ask GOD for direction. Marriage is so wonderful but 2 must work for it.

Love,
Mom

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